Susan Moran, of Natural Solutions wrote a great article on reigniting your sex life after 40.  She talked about the problem of hormones and depression, and the many health benefits of a healthy sex life.  She even delved into the fascinating topic of Tantra (something I really want to explore). 

Sex at any age can be enhanced by the tips in this article, no doubt about it. That is, as long as you are emotionally connected with your partner.  There are thousands of books and as many websites about sex.  All of them enumerate in one form or another the many differing tecniques to have more and better sex. 

But as Mike and I always say, the truth is, if your partner wants you, then technique will take care of itself.  I was married twice before, both reasonably good lovers (perhaps even greater than the norm) but I did not want sex with them much.  One could ask, if you have a good (even better then the norm) lover, why wouldn't you want to have sex as often as possible?

My answer of course is that my desire to have sex with my husband depends entirely on my emotional connection. Now, I know many men claim that it makes no difference if they are emotionally connected or not, sex is sex.  While this may be true more often for men than for women, the truth is sex can only be really great if that emotional connection is there.

Unfortunately, there is a ton of information about about technique and very little about the emotional aspects of sexual connection.  Yet, it is the thing that makes me want to have sex with my husband any time he wants it and initiate it frequently myself, something I rarely did before.