I heard on the radio yesterday that a new study says that 50% of women say they would marry an "ugly" guy if he has enough money.  Basically, the study is saying that 50% of women are willing to be prostitutes. The radio show didn't say at what rate men would do this.  My guess is it's significantly less.

The DJ was making jokes about women being "shallow" but also acknowleding that men are likely just as shallow in a different way. I imagine that if a study of the same type was done about men and hot-bodied women who would be willing to have sex whenever they wanted even if they were poor and stupid the results would be at about 50% as well.

Its all in what you think brings you happiness.  Basically, 50% of women think they would be happier if they had a lot more money and men think they would be happier if they had a lot more sex with a hot bodied woman.

But what is it that makes us happy with our mates? That's a study I'd like to see. Personally, I think having frequent hot sex is the marker of a healthy, happy relationship not the cause of one.

Even Tom Cruise (not one known for wisdom) admits that sex is amazing when you are emotionally connected to your partner.  The truth is that amazing sex is only as amaing as it is in your mind.

I once dated a handsome guy with a fantastic body, who was also smart and really nice.  Funny thing is that both of us were in a place where we weren't ready for a relationship but we liked each other and so had hot, fun sex until he got tired of commuting to see me in a town 45 minutes from him. There was no emotional romantic tie, we just enjoyed each other in and out of bed.  Kind of the perfect sex, at least, that's what I thought at the time. 

Looking back I realize that while the sex was fantastic, how much more fantastic could it have been? Had either of us been capable of having the kind of deep emotional connection I now know how to have, sex could have been at a completely different level.

Fortuneately, having that kind of connection, now, with my husband has created the dreamy sex life I never new was possible.  Its just sad to me how many people still search for it when the answer is so close at hand.